Remove the copper sealing washer and heat it up cherry red with a propane torch, then let it cool. That will anneal it to soften it up and help it seal. The pipe dope is a good idea as well. Or you could use some gasket sealer (the black gooey stuff - not silicone) in place of the pipe dope.
I couldn't find torque specs for the IAH heater, but it should stand a reasonable amount of torque. If you're using an open end or box wrench, it's gonna be about 10" long for that size. A 2-finger pull should be plenty to seal it.