What makes me believe its the starter is when I did a direct feed from a good battery to the solenoid it did nothing but get the wire hot and it was a good thick gauge wire and to me that indicates a short it drew so many amps to get the wire that thick that warm so to me that's a good idea of a shorted out starter, i had good voltage to the + terminal on the starter, the relays I went to the local autozone to get replacements and they are not listed, I could swap one over if the replacement starter doesn't work, like I mentioned I am away all weekend but back Monday and have a friend swapping over the starter for me.Just so you know, the pcm looks for a report from the egr in that built in test, unless it's programmed out... So... No reporty, no cranky... That simple.
The starter jump we've discussed defeats this, though. This is why I'm confused why the starter didn't kick over, or at least the solenoid click... You may wanna check relays before you tear into the starter replacement.
Re the EGR, this was professionally done a while ago so I assume the PCM has been reprogrammed as it was running fine until I parked it up and left it.
For now my aim it to get it to at least crank, then plan to tackle the other reported issues.
Drew you certainly are very knowledgeable and your helping me out continually appreciated thank you and have a good weekend i will let you know if it at least cranks hopefully Monday